At times, the easiest approach when things aren’t going well in a relationship is to resort to blame. This could happen in romantic relationships, with family, friends, colleagues at work, or even within a community or student group. Blaming becomes a defense mechanism where we avoid taking responsibility and find temporary relief in pointing out the faults of others. Our brains are wired to blame rather than to praise. 🤔
The good news is that the brain has the ability to redirect thoughts and help individuals engage in self-reflection. This allows us to ask ourselves questions such as:
- What role have I played in this situation?
- What could I have done differently?
- What aspects are within my control?
- What can I change?
- How can I adjust my actions to achieve the desired outcome?
- What responsibility can I take?
💧Many relationships suffer because the blame game continues to play out.
❤️What if we focused on improving our own flaws and insecurities rather than projecting them onto our partners?
♥️It’s hard to notice others’ flaws when you’re aware of your own. That realization is incredibly humbling. 🙏
❤️The result is a tendency to become more gracious towards your partner, and this marks the beginning of a healing journey for your relationship.
🌹Healing begins when a partner feels safe, loved, and unconditionally valued. It is when they experience authenticity, compassion, and genuine concern that they start mirroring positive behaviors and desiring change.
🌹 Every partner has a role in the success of the relationship.
♥️Make the choice to introspect, address your own flaws, and lovingly help guide your spouse as you support each other in growth.
💧Self-righteousness in a relationship is toxic—it slowly erodes the foundation of trust and connection.