By Lydiah Karimi. Marriage and Family Therapist.
Today, my heart goes out to couples who find themselves sitting in silence, confusion, or conflict—wondering how something that once felt so right now feels so broken.
You likely entered your relationship full of excitement and hope. You dreamed of finishing each other’s sentences, planning surprise dates to romantic places, spending quality time together, building a home filled with laughter, intimacy, and adventure. You imagined raising children in love and solving conflicts with patience and grace.
You believed in forever. You believed your love story would be different.
But now… this is not what you’re experiencing.
Maybe the conflict has become too frequent.
Maybe the emotional connection is gone.
Maybe you feel like you’re carrying the relationship alone.
Maybe therapy didn’t work—or maybe you gave up on it too soon.
Maybe you thought having children would fix the cracks, but instead, the weight of parenting has only deepened the distance.
You’ve tried to keep the fire alive, but resentment has taken root.
You’ve poured so much of yourself in—and now you’re empty.
You may even be quietly preparing to separate or divorce.
But I want to offer you a different perspective:
Sometimes, the hardest moments in a relationship are not the end—but the beginning of something deeper.
Sometimes, it has to get this hard to wake us up.
Sometimes, darkness has to bloom before we look for the light.
“Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” – Psalm 127:1
“It is not by might, nor by power, but by My Spirit,” says the Lord. – Zechariah 4:6
Marriage is not just a partnership—it’s a spiritual covenant. And when we try to sustain it on willpower alone, we often find ourselves frustrated and exhausted.
But what if you changed your strategy?
🛠 What if you stopped trying to fix your partner, and started asking God to transform you?
🙏🏽 What if you allowed your pain to lead you to prayer—not just for resolution, but for clarity, healing, and personal growth?
💡 What if instead of controlling the outcome, you surrendered the process to the One who created both of you?
Here’s the truth I’ve learned as a therapist:
Relationships reflect who we are, not just who our partner is.
They expose our wounds, our fears, and our weaknesses—not to shame us, but to grow us.
They stretch us in ways we never expected—and reveal how much we need grace, humility, and divine help.
I won’t promise you that if you do all of this, everything will suddenly be perfect.
But I will promise this: when you allow God to rebuild your heart, you will see your relationship—and your role in it—through new eyes.
You may discover a deeper peace.
A stronger foundation.
A renewed sense of purpose—even in the pain.
So to the husband or wife reading this:
Don’t give up just yet.
Don’t walk away without asking: Have I truly invited God into this process?
Maybe it’s not the relationship that’s beyond repair.
Maybe it’s just time to change your approach—and trust God to do what you cannot.
You’re not alone. Healing is possible.
Let’s begin again—together.
Need support on your journey?
If you and your partner are navigating a difficult season, I’d be honored to walk with you. Explore my couples counseling services or contact me to schedule a confidential consultation.
📩 You are not beyond hope. Your relationship is not beyond help.